Your vibe attracts your tribe

Your vibe attracts your tribe

I saw this quote on Facebook a few months ago. I liked it because it has rhyme in it. I’m an English teacher, after all. I also like it because it’s true. It’s funny how when you see these sayings how true they are. You feel them within you and realize it’s something you’ve always known but never articulated. People who seem to “vibe” best with us are attracted to our “vibe”.  Those people become our friends. Some of those friends become family…or like family to us.

Anyway, it also made me think that we should also be careful of who our vibe attracts. There are people out there who are users. They latch on to us because they want to take from us. If someone is going to be in my tribe, I expect them to give as well as take.

Those of us who have been through some shit know what it feels like to be used. We know what it’s like to find out that people who claimed to be our friend were really only there for themselves. That hurts. I know that most will agree with me when I say I don’t want to experience that again.

I’m a cynical person. I find it very hard to trust. Sometimes I hate being that way. Sometimes I wish I could go back to the days when I believed in people more. Sometimes I feel so negative, and I hate it. But as much as I know this, I also know I’m this way because my experiences with people have made me this way. These experiences, sometimes with people who I should have been able to trust implicitly, made me cynical and suspicious. 

What I’m trying to say is…be careful. When meeting new people, go easy at first. Don’t dump all your trust on them in the beginning. Let them earn your trust. That doesn’t mean you have to be mean to them, just wary. Earn trust from each other.

That’s not a definitive answer though. Unfortunately, I recently found out that someone I trusted couldn’t be trusted. I had known them for over 20 years, and it had taken me so long to trust them. I found out the hard way. I hope my words help someone not go through this. It hurts. It’s hard. It will take me a long time to work through it.

As you go through each day and your vibe is attracting people who might fit into your tribe, think about my experience and be wary. It would be wonderful to be able to trust everyone we meet, but unfortunately, the world doesn’t work that way.